Written by Paul Bettings.
It’s not just Raymond’s lively and affectionate relationship with his wife and kids that makes him stand out in his small Kenyan community. It isn’t even the fact that his plot of land is studded with row after row of green crops almost ready for harvest, despite it being dry season. He stands out because he takes on responsibilities that in his village are usually reserved for women.
Raymond cooks, cleans, bathes his children and helps get them ready for school. He collects firewood and water, does the laundry and carries his kids in his arms or on his back. People whisper and gossip about his unusual behaviour but he does it anyway. And he loves it.
Raymond and his wife working in their field which provides nutritious food for their family. Photo: Paul Bettings
MenCare is a model that brings men together to help them understand the importance of supporting their wives. MenCare provided a forum where Raymond could talk to the snickering men and share why he collected firewood and washed clothes. He was able to explain how it helped his family thrive. The proof was self-evident. After a while, the other men started to listen and behaviour in the community started to change.
MenCare has supported the growth of Raymond’s lush crops – the program has taught him about nutrition and what foods will help his children grow strong and healthy. He’s led by example to address community taboos. He’s cultivated a brighter future for his family and become a changemaker not only for them, but also for those who once used to look at him and laugh.